Three Steps to a Healthy Home

We all want to relax and be ourselves when we get home. Yet too often that is not so easy. There are responsibilities and burdens which await us, bills to pay, dishes to wash, messes to clean up. For some, home is a place of conflict and unease. Amidst the stress and demands of daily life we all need a refuge.

Your home is meant to be the central oasis of day to day life, a sacred safe space where you can tap in and experience your true inner self, away from the external world. This can only happen when your home is an emotionally healthy space.

Here are 3 essential steps to having an emotionally healthy home:

Make Peaceful Relationships the Soul of Your Home

Peace is not just the absence of conflict, it is the heartfelt soul of a relationship. When we create and live in peace with ourselves, our spouses and family, we strengthen the home as a peaceful space. Everyone benefits. We want to be there. We feel better, calmer, safer.  Our children are happier. The modeling of peace is especially important from parents to children. This modeling happens through displays of mutual respect and through shared values which tie the home together, creating a broad sense of purpose and meaning.

Create a Loving Atmosphere

Space matters. Make your home appear warm and inviting to almost any stranger who may enter it. This does not require lavish furnishings, but only that there is an environment where people would want to gather. The physical aspects of a home should reflect the kind and peaceful spirit that your family aspires to. Dress your home with symbols of care, display images which inspire and affirm your values. The physical layout of a home creates the atmosphere where peace and love can be nurtured.

Unify Time

Time passes quickly and we can each get caught in our own bubble without really being present to the people who share our home. We may even find that some people in the home live a separate life. While respecting personal space, create a sense of togetherness. Structure the day to function in a harmonious way. Create responsibilities in a way that values each person’s contribution and creates a sense of dignity. Unify time in a way which says to each person in the home: “You matter.”

LOVE & MARRIAGE

True love and marriage is the process of two halves of one soul reuniting again for all eternity. This is why everyone is looking for it.

 

I want him to be handsome. I want her to be pretty. I am looking for wit. I am looking for kindness. Should I perform a credit check? My wedding will be on the beach. My marriage is so boring… When it comes to the body of love and marriage, we know exactly what we want. But what about the soul of love and marriage, do I know what I want? What type of spiritual connection am I looking for? How do I put the soul into “soul-mate”? What is the inner meaning of marriage? And what happens once I am married? Is love only at first sight or does it continue? What happens when I have the marital without the bliss?

This Is How To Date When You’re A Woman With Anxiety

No matter how you try and rationalize it, being a girlfriend with anxiety is hard. Being anyone with anxiety is hard.

I’m not sure anxiety ever gets easier to deal with. From my experience, the second you think you’ve mastered it, it evolves. It begins to take shape in a new form that’s different and scarier than the first. The worst part is, you’re never prepared.

It makes you feel like a bad daughter, a bad sister, a bad friend, a bad girlfriend, and an all-around bad person. You feel defeated.

While being a girlfriend with anxiety is hard, I think I’m learning and I think I’m getting better at. At least I hope so… maybe a little bit each day. So here’s what I’ve learned and I hope you can take it with you as you begin to date with anxiety.

35 Qualities You Should Look For In A Life Partner

1. A strong sense of self, because you can’t be with someone who doesn’t know who they are.

2. Honesty, because your relationship won’t survive without it.

3. Joy, because if you’re going to survive through the struggles, you need to be with someone who makes you happy.

4. Integrity, because you can’t be with a person you don’t respect.

5. Accountability, because you can’t have a strong relationship with someone who isn’t going to be there for you.

6. Sense of humor, because as long as they know how to laugh at life, you’ll be okay.

7. Strength, because sometimes you’re going to feel weak, and you’re going to need someone to hold you up.

8. The ability to trust others, because sometimes they’re going to be weak, and they should be willing to lean on you as much as you lean on them.

9. Maturity, because a relationship needs two adults, not one.

10. Compatibility from the start, because that’s something you can’t really ‘work on.’

11. Independence, because being with another person doesn’t mean you should forget who you are.

12. Commitment, because the only way for a relationship to continue to grow is if you both take it seriously.

13. Vulnerability, because you can’t become close with someone if they don’t let their walls down.

14. An ability to argue in a productive way. Working through a problem will be necessary, but shouting or getting overly defensive will get you both nowhere.

15. Humility, because everyone makes mistakes, and you have to be willing to admit when you’re wrong if you want your relationship to have a chance.

16. Openness, or there will be no room for growth in your partnership.

Bridging the gap from URL to IRL

In May last year, The Hindu published a story about how a social media community was helping people across the globe find catharsis. Founded by Jovanny Varela in 2015, the Internet-based community, the Artidote, began its journey as an Instagram/Snapchat/Facebook presence that shared inspirational poetry attached to art. In 2017, through his Snapchat account, Varela introduced what he calls, SnapThoughts, where fellow Artidotees would send across their deepest emotions and secrets anonymously. The founder would then curate the shared photographs on his Snapchat story, and it soon became a place where people would come to bond, heal, vent, and often just connect with one another.

Ways To Prevent From Cell Phone’s Dangerous Radiations

Cell Phones have become an essential part of our life. We spend long hours on our cell phones. We know its advantages but what we don’t know is it’s adverse effects on our health. Electo-magnetic radiations coming from our cell phones adversely affects our health. A research study shows that usage of phones for long hours can result in memory loss, hearing loss, brain tumor and even cancer.

If anyone use cell phone on ear to talk continously for 20 minutes, then there are chances of increase in temperature of brain by 2 degree celcius which may result in brain tumor.

Preventive Measures To Adopt:
1. 

It’s very difficult to keep away cell phones from our body but to avoid its adverse effect, we’ll have to do it. 

Use Earphones while talking on phones. When you’ll use earphone while talking, then your brain will remain unaffected by its radiations and even if you talk more, brain’s temperature will not increase.

If it’s not possible for you to use earphone sometime, then you can use your phone’s loudspeaker as it will help you to make some distance of your phone from your ear.

2.

Tty to send messages than to make calls. There are many instant chat messaging apps on play store like Whatsapp, WeChat,Viber etc which you can use to send messages. If it’s not necessary to make calls, then try to send messages as it will 


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How To Know When You Are Ready To Get Married

 

It used to be when you’d hit certain financial and social milestones: when you had a home to your name, a set of qualifications on the mantelpiece and a few cows and a parcel of land in your possession.

But when, under the influence of Romantic ideology, this grew to seem altogether too mercenary and calculating, the focus shifted to emotions. It came to be thought important to feel the right way. That was the true sign of a good union. And the right feelings included the sense that the other was ‘the one’, that you understood one another perfectly and that you’d both never want to sleep with anyone else again.

These ideas, though touching, have proved to be an almost sure recipe for the eventual dissolution of marriages – and have caused havoc in the emotional lives of millions of otherwise sane and well-meaning couples.

We are ready for marriage…

1. When we give up on perfection 

We should not only admit in a general way that the person we are marrying is very far from perfect. We should also grasp the specifics of their imperfections: how they will be irritating, difficult, sometimes irrational, and often unable to sympathise or understand us. Vows should be rewritten to include the terse line: ‘I agree to marry this person even though they will, on a regular basis, drive me to distraction.’

However, these flaws should never be interpreted as merely capturing a local problem. No one else would be better. We are as bad. We are a flawed species. Whomever one got together with would be radically imperfect in a host of deeply serious ways. One must conclusively kill the idea that things would be ideal with any other creature in this galaxy. There can only ever be a ‘good enough’ marriage.

9 Things To Consider Before Leaving Your Relationship

The decision whether one should stay or leave is one of the most consequential and painful any of us ever has to make. On any given day, many millions of people worldwide will be secretly turning the issue over in their minds as they go about their daily lives, their partners beside them possibly having little clue as to the momentous decision weighing upon them.

The choice is perhaps more common now than it ever was. We expect to be deeply happy in love and therefore spend a good deal of time wondering whether our relationships are essentially normal in their sexual and psychological frustrations – or are beset by unusually pathological patterns which should impel us to get out as soon as we can. What films or novels we’ve been exposed to, the state of our friends’ relationships, the degree of noise surrounding new sexually-driven dating apps, not to mention how much sleep we’ve had, can all play humblingly large roles in influencing us one way or another.

Awkwardly, it seems that no one else actually really minds what we end up doing, which gives the decision a degree of existential loneliness it might not always have possessed. Historically, the choice was in a sense a good deal easier because there were simply so many stern external sanctions around not leaving. Religions would insist that God blessed unions and would be furious at their being torn asunder. Society strongly disapproved of break-ups and cast separating parties into decades of ignominy and shame. And psychologists would explain that children would be deeply and permanently scarred by any termination in their parents’ relationship.

But one by one, these objections to quitting have fallen away. Religions no longer terrify us into staying, society doesn’t care and psychologists routinely tell us that children would prefer a broken family to an unhappy one. The burden of choice therefore falls squarely upon us. The only thing determining whether to stay or leave is how we feel – which can be a hard matter indeed to work out for ourselves, our feelings having a dispiriting habit of shifting and evading any efforts at rational clarification.

My Friendships With Women Taught Me How Not To Be A “Good Girl”

My foundation of close friendships blossomed much later in life. More specifically, when I was 15.

During class introductions, one of my now-best friends said “My name is ___ and I am an aggressive person.” I had never heard “aggressive” in a positive light, let alone a girl describe herself as such with this much admiration. The class laughed. She had the reputation for being a comic and for being fierce. It’s an odd combination, really, to have the ability to frighten someone and also make them laugh. I was particularly intrigued by her because she owned her traits with the utmost pride. She wore rugged cargo shorts, a digital watch, and sandals to class; she was always loud and in no way did she fit the stereotype of how girls were supposed to be. But she inspired me to own my perceived imperfections and taught me to laugh at myself. She added excitement to her difference and was seen as much more than a sore thumb that stood out.

Growing up, I heard the phrase “lady-like” and “be a good girl,” a lot. Being a good girl meant complying with obedience, not sitting with my legs wide, hiding my period like it was the family’s will, not using cuss words, having neat braids, and smiling. To always, always smile. Being a girl came with an instruction manual; and the best ones, the “good girls,” checked everything off that list. One of my most precious friends embodied this completely. Her hair was always neat, her eyeliner was always on point, she even held an umbrella with grace. She is still very soft spoken, very patient, and one of the most organized people I know. But being the textbook definition of a woman is not only where her strengths lie and it’s most definitely not how she wants to be viewed in the society. Her strengths lie in the her powerful fidelity in friendships, in her ability to embrace change and challenge herself to grow.

…there’s an unbelievable level of support that’s derived from familiar misery.”

I think insecurities are like an unwanted sibling we’ve grown up with as women ― about our bodies (mostly), the rejection to our personalities, the casual and serious sexism in everyday language, the shunning of our beliefs, our puberty and the wrath of periods, the silly customs that come along with the periods, and blah, blah, blah.

You know what’s the worst thing about developing a culture of insecurities? It also stimulates an air of hate. If daadi claims that you’re too dark or tan to be viewed as beautiful, you not only begin to dislike a part of you but also dislike the same part in someone else. I know I have, on several occasions, over the silliest things. There goes the scope for one good friendship to be built! It’s a vicious cycle, and if we get sucked in and become accustomed to aspiring toward society’s definition of perfection, we may dangerously harbor hate and negativity for someone else. Yet funnily, there is no “one size fits all” definition to this said perfection. Magazines still continue to pit two beautiful women against each other under a ‘who wore better?’ poll. Nothing is ― or will ever be ― enough.

Strangely, insecurities also make for the the best jokes; and if you shared one of yours with someone else, you’d be surprised at what a hit you will be at that party. My old workplace had five of us who would compete on whose moustache hair grew the fastest. Objectively, ours are the most insignificant body hair that has ever existed, but it was the root of so much self shaming until they became the most popular joke at the lunch table. The women in my life are some of the funniest people I will ever know, because there is no joke funnier than the trauma of underboob sweat and the reality of leg stubble. Even if the world won’t stop adding to our list of insecurities and the threats to our safety, there’s an unbelievable level of support that’s derived from familiar misery. It’s like we’re spiders working at making webs of connection, shared sensibilities, laughter, validation and assurance. Lots of assurance.

The Social Psychology Behind Fashion

What are the most interesting ways signaling theory has shaped our contemporary culture? originally appeared on Quora – the knowledge sharing network where compelling questions are answered by people with unique insightsAnswer by Judith Donath, author of The Social Machine and former director of the Sociable Media Group, on Quora.

One quite interesting way that signaling has shaped the contemporary human world is the rise of fashion, in clothing, but also in many other areas, including slang, car styling, management theories, programming languages, painting styles, etc. Like many costly signals, fashion appears frivolous and wasteful: why do we feel a need to continually replace perfectly good things with something new and different?

My hypothesis is that fashion is a signal of one’s skill with information — of one’s access to it and one’s ability to distinguish good information from bad. To be at the forefront of new fashions you have to both be privy to knowing what is new and upcoming and also be able to distinguish which is going to be the next cool new thing from something that is merely odd and different. The cost in fashion is the risk of making a mistake, of adopting the wrong thing.

The rate of change in fashion, the acceleration of information, moves faster and faster. Around the time of the birth of fashion around the 15th century information moved very slowly. It could take a year for the information about what was being worn in the courts of Paris to reach a princess in Poland. Today fashion moves around the globe instantaneously and fashion changes faster and faster. On the negative side, fashion thus creates tremendous waste, understanding the motivation behind it is key to ameliorating this problem.

But fashion is also closely related to innovation adoption. We can think of them as orthogonal phenomena: a pure fashion has no practical utility and is adopted solely for signaling social position while the ideal innovation is all utility, adopted for its usefulness. Understanding their interplay helps us understand why new ideas do and do not spread.

6 Tips for Buying Prescription Glasses Online

In recent years, many people have been opting to buy their prescription eyeglasses on the internet. This is because the services of the companies that supply eyeglasses are really convenient, affordable and timely. More so, customers can choose from different styles, frames, coating, sizes, shapes, colors and brands. The fact is that all the eyewear sold on reputable websites are usually of high quality. After fitting new lenses in old frames or using replacement lenses for some time, you may decide to purchase a pair of brand new eyeglasses. Here are some tips for getting the best deals online.

1.   Request for an updated eyewear prescription

As a matter of fact, the validity of prescription eyeglasses is around a year for children and two years for adults. It is essential to get in touch with an optician as soon as your prescription expires for an up to date and accurate one. A prescription card will be issued to you once the eyesight examination is over. It normally contains information that include pupillary distance (PD). During the process of placing an order on the internet, endeavor to input the correct information.

2.   Know the numbers on your latest glasses

If you check the interior part of the arms of your eyeglasses frames carefully, some numbers are printed there. These numbers indicate the lens size, bridge and temple length of your eyeglasses. Having a fore knowledge of the three numbers assist in making the right decision. Perhaps this is the first time that you will be getting prescription eyeglasses, ask your optician to include these details on your prescription card.

3.   Check the return and refund policies

One important factor to consider before settling for any online store is the return and refund policies. Make sure that you read and understand all the policies so that it’s easier to exchange or return eyeglasses if they are not the best fit. A great number of trusted companies allow customers to return their eyeglasses within a specific period of time. In addition, make enquires about the shipping policy.

4.   Research extensively about different companies

Without mincing words, tons of eyeglasses suppliers exist on the internet and discovering the best can be a daunting task. You can ask from people who have purchased their prescription glasses online about how satisfied they are about the products. Another solution is to examine the customer reviews section. As you compare the quality of eyeglasses and prices of various websites, keep your needs in mind.

5.   Select a supplier that supports in-house try-ons

The majority of reputable companies often ship around 4-6 frames to their customers. This gives them the opportunity to try the frames on and choose the most suitable one.Later on, they are sent back and an order will be placed. In most cases, no extra charges will be incurred for this service. Other online stores usually encourage customers to upload pictures on their websites in order to determine the right frames for each face type and size.

6.   Take note of add-ons

Add-ons like eyeglasses coatings automatically attract a higher price. Ask yourself whether any of the coatings are necessary and go for the important ones. It’s advisable to check the final price of the eyeglasses and not rely on the advertised price alone. The truth is that the advertised price is a smart move to attract customers and making them to believe that the eyeglasses are actually very cheap.